When a child struggles, the whole family feels it.
Perhaps your child has become unusually angry, anxious, withdrawn or sad.
Perhaps everyday situations repeatedly turn into conflict, and you find yourselves reacting in ways you never intended.
Or perhaps your family is going through a transition — a move, separation, change of school, loss or another experience that has unsettled something that previously seemed secure.
As parents, it can be painful not to know what your child needs.
And sometimes, the harder we try to help, the more difficult things seem to become.
Family counselling offers a place to slow things down and become curious about what may be happening underneath the behaviour.
Behaviour is communication
I don’t begin with the question:
How do we stop this behaviour?
I am more interested in asking:
What might this behaviour be trying to tell us?
Anger may be protecting vulnerability.
Withdrawal may be a response to overwhelm.
Clinging may express a need for security.
Defiance may sometimes be an attempt to regain a sense of agency when too much feels outside a child’s control.
This doesn’t mean that every behaviour needs to be accepted.
It means that understanding what is happening underneath it often gives us a much better starting point for responding to it.
The child — and the relationships around the child
Children do not develop in isolation. Their emotional world unfolds in relationship: with their parents, siblings, peers and the environment around them. For that reason, my work does not necessarily begin by trying to “work on” the child. Often, some of the most meaningful work happens through the parents.
Together we explore questions such as: What might your child be experiencing? What does your child need from you in difficult moments? What happens inside you when your child becomes angry, frightened, withdrawn or distressed? Which reactions belong to the situation now — and which may touch something from your own history? How can you remain emotionally available when your own nervous system is activated? How can boundaries and emotional connection exist at the same time?
The intention is not to find the “right parenting technique.”
It is to strengthen your capacity to understand your child, understand yourselves, and respond from a place of greater clarity and connection.
Co-regulation: we learn safety in relationship
Young children cannot regulate difficult emotions entirely by themselves.
They gradually develop this capacity through relationship.
A calm, emotionally available adult can help a child move through fear, frustration, sadness or anger without becoming overwhelmed by it.
But this can be enormously difficult when the child’s emotions activate something powerful in the parent.
For this reason, parent counselling may also involve exploring your own emotional responses, protective patterns and personal history.
Not because the difficulty is “the parents’ fault.”
But because the more space we have inside ourselves, the more space we can offer our children.
The change is not only for the child
Working with what happens inside us as parents can begin with the wish to help our child — but it does not necessarily end there.
Sometimes our children’s struggles bring us into contact with parts of ourselves that have been waiting for attention for a long time: old fears, ways of protecting ourselves, beliefs about who we need to be, or experiences from our own childhood that continue to shape how we meet life today.
Becoming curious about these places can be profoundly liberating.
As parents develop a different relationship with their own inner world, something can change not only in how they respond to their child, but in how they are able to be with themselves, with others, and with life itself.
There may be more space. More choice. More capacity to remain present when things are difficult — and also more freedom to experience closeness, playfulness, tenderness and joy.
In this sense, the process does not have to be about becoming a “better parent.”
It can also become an invitation to become more fully ourselves.
How we begin
I prefer not to prescribe a counselling process before I do not understanding
what is actually happening in the family. For this reason, I begin in stages:
1. Initial conversation
We start with a brief introductory conversation.
You can tell me what is concerning you, what has been happening in the family, and what you hope might change.
It also gives us a first opportunity to see whether my way of working feels right for you.
2. Initial assessment & recommendation
If you would like to proceed, I take time to understand the situation in greater depth.
Based on this initial assessment, I will suggest how I believe we could work together.
Rather than offering a standard package, I will provide you with a recommendation adapted to your family, including:
*the proposed focus of our work
*who I recommend working with initially
*the suggested rhythm and format of sessions
*an initial time frame and
*a transparent proposal for the corresponding cost
You can then decide whether this feels appropriate for your family.
3. Two-session orientation period
The first two counselling sessions are an opportunity for us to experience the work together before you make a longer commitment.
If, after those two sessions, you feel that we are not the right match, you can end the process there.
No questions asked.
Those two sessions will not be charged.
If you decide that you would like to continue working together, the two orientation sessions become part of the agreed counselling process and are included in the corresponding fee.
I believe this is important.
A counselling relationship cannot be decided from a description on a website. You need the opportunity to experience whether you feel understood, whether the approach makes sense to you, and whether there is enough trust for us to work together.
What might bring a family here?
Families come for many different reasons, including:
- anger, emotional outbursts or persistent conflict
- anxiety, fears or insecurity
- sadness or withdrawal
- difficulties following a move or other major transition
- separation and loss
- difficulties at school or kindergarten
- challenges around friendships and belonging
- changes in family relationships
- different parenting approaches between partners
- difficulties with boundaries
- parental overwhelm
- recurring situations in which everyone seems to become caught in the same pattern
- simply knowing that something is not quite right, without yet understanding what it is
You do not need to have worked out what the problem is before contacting me.
Understanding what is happening is part of the work.
The aim is not a perfect family
Families are living systems.
There will be conflict.
Children will become angry.
Parents will lose patience.
There will be moments of disconnection.
The aim is not to prevent all of this.
What matters is our capacity to understand what happened, find our way back into relationship, and repair when connection has been lost.
Over time, these experiences can teach a child something profoundly important:
Relationships can become difficult without disappearing.
And perhaps that is one of the deepest forms of security we can offer our children.
Begin with a Conversation
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If something in your family is asking for attention, we can begin by talking about it. You don’t need to know yet what kind of support you need.
That is something we can explore together.
How and where we can work together
Family and parent counselling can take place online, in English, German or Spanish.
Depending on the situation, I may work with one parent, both parents together, the child, or different members of the family at different stages of the process.
Where a therapeutic setting is indicated, I also offer in-person work at Heilpraxis Mommsenstraße in Berlin-Charlottenburg within the scope of my work as a Heilpraktikerin für Psychotherapie.
We can discuss which setting and format would be most appropriate for your family during our initial conversation.
Final note: Raising a family away from home
Raising children in another country adds another layer to family life.
Children may adapt quickly in some ways while struggling in others.
Language, school, friendships, cultural expectations and questions of belonging can affect each member of a family differently — and parents are often navigating their own adaptation at the same time.
Having lived abroad for more than twenty years and raised my own children within another cultural and educational system, I have personal experience of some of these complexities.
This perspective informs my work with international families: not assuming that every difficulty is because of living abroad, but remaining attentive to the particular questions that can arise when a family is making its home between languages, cultures and different senses of belonging.